You’ll get CLOSE. Maybe. But INSIDE…there’s a part of you who knows “All the times you fucked up and hurt other people in the past” and well…how would you ever allow THAT side of yourself to experience any major levels of success?

You don’t DESERVE success because of all the shit you’ve fucked up on in your past, or at least that’s what your subconscious is REALLY thinking…and it will never ever change UNLESS…

You realize you actually ARE enough.


A right to be in YOUR MARKETPLACE.

A right to experience MASSIVE SUCCESS.


You have a MAJOR part of yourself that is holding you back from it.

And you don’t even SEE that side of you consciously because CONSCIOUSLY: “DUH who wouldn’t want SUCCESS? OF COURSE I want success!”

Subconsciously though…every fiber of your being is keeping you away from it.

And a BIG part of that is because of your fuckups in the past.

The times you’ve lied to people.

The times you’ve hurt people either physically or mentally.

The times you felt low so you made others feel low too.

The times you’ve stolen…either physical possessions or time from somebody.

The times you’ve burst out in anger and hostility at the people who love you the most.

And let’s not forget all the times you SAID you were going to do the work but then you never actually did it and gave into sloth and gluttony instead.

How could THAT version of you EVER deserve success?

“But Ben…that’s not me anymore. I’m on the personal development path. I’m different now!”

Try telling that to your subconscious.


It is fulfilling the karma loop and working to PUNISH YOU for a million things you did wrong in the past and because it can’t specifically give you a million different punishments equal to everything you did…it’s just going to give you ONE punishment that dwarfs them all:

It’s going to hold you back from success.

It’s going to make success IMPOSSIBLE.

I’m sure you know by now the power of the compound effect and taking consistent action towards the results you desire, no?

Ever wonder why it’s so EASY to start and get that initial BURST of momentum (that you’re probably experiencing RIGHT NOW in the new year) but then you quickly go back to “Regular Mode” where nothing grows and no REAL success is ever attained?

It’s your subconscious PUNISHING you for your past.

It’s your subconscious saying “WAIT A MINUTE! You did all this fucked up shit in the past…and now you just want massive levels of success? Someone like you doesn’t DESERVE that success after all you did! So I’ll let you roll for a littleeeeeee bit so you don’t REALLY know what’s going on but then when you’re not looking…I’m going to cut off ALL your traction and ALL your momentum.”

And you know what that means:

You’re destined to fulfill the endless loop your entire life without end.

A purgatory of sorts.

Start doing the right things and getting a littleeeee success and then crash back down and start from scratch and start doing the right things to get a littleeeee success and then BOOM another crash.

Endless and endless and endless.

At least until you DIE of course.

We all have THAT to look forward to.

The REAL question my friend is:

In the time BEFORE that…don’t you want to spend it LIVING?

Don’t you want to spend it THRIVING?

Don’t you want to spend it fulfilling all your earthly desires and entering a state of permanent peace to the point where you’re GOOD and can now help lifting others up too?

Don’t you want to break out of the endless cycle?

So much of success starts with FORGIVENESS.

Not just forgiving other people who hurt you.

Anybody can do that.

But forgiving YOURSELF for all your fuckups in the past.

And knowing that just because you made mistakes and hurt others as well as yourself in the process…it doesn’t mean that you don’t DESERVE success.

It doesn’t mean that you’re not enough.

Because you ARE.

You ARE enough.

You’re MORE than enough.

No matter WHAT you did…you’re worthy of success…


…as long as you’re going to stay CONSISTENT on the path.

Most fall off.

More can’t stay on the path to success for more than a few days to be honest.

And it’s all because of this self-sabotage.

But those who have broken FREE from it…

…they started taking the dream life that’s in their head and turning it into a VIBRANT REALITY they live day to day.

It’s not just about reading the books and saying the affirmations and doing the work.

You need to dive deep and be HONEST about what you’re REFUSING TO FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR because THAT is the root of your self sabotage…THAT is the part of you that will hold you back from any REAL success with tricks you can’t even SEE.

And it’s not until you shine that light of awareness on those areas of your life, clear and transmute them, and TRANSCEND them that you’ll EVER step out of your funk and step INTO the most successful version of yourself you’ve ever experienced in your entire life.

Most will never do this in their lifetime.

It’s why the masses stay average.

It’s why 97%+ of businesses fail.

It’s why people have big hopes and fantastic dreams…but never seem to call them forward into their reality.

Because a part of their own selves made the decision that they’re not ENOUGH and they don’t DESERVE these goals because of the PAIN they’ve caused themselves and OTHERS in the past…so it builds a wall in between them and success that they have no idea how to climb over.

They don’t even know the wall is THERE.

But YOU my friend…you can dissolve that wall in an instant.

When you shine awareness on these areas…the wall begins to weaken.

When you forgive yourself for the pain you’ve caused…the wall begins to break.

And when you stay CONSISTENT with these two things…you’ll soon look up and find the wall crumbled down to ash at your feet, never to be rebuilt again.

And that’s when you can step over it and into the other side…the side where success lives…the side where you can exhale all your stress realizing you ARE enough and ARE deserving of success and now you’re finally the version of yourself capable of going out there and making it happen.

That’s what I wish for you my friend.

And hopefully that’s what you wish for yourself.

Let this year be the year you shine the light on the areas of your past that you’ve covered up for so long so you can step into the version of yourself capable of making ANYTHING happen that your pretty little heart desires.

After all, there IS a version of you that deserves it.


P.S. I go IN DEPTH on all of this inside my course The Productivity Plan where we crack into all the different ways you’re self-sabotaging yourself from the INSIDE and all the ways your environment is sabotaging you from the OUTSIDE. The combination of the two holds most back from ever getting what they TRULY desire in life…but if you learn to conquer those “Productivity BLOCKS” as I like to call them…you can bring any results into your life that you want.

Unfortunately, there’s more productivity blocks than just THIS ONE that I mentioned in this post, but this one is the first BIG ONE to deal with so it’s what we conquer first in the course. But quickly after we get into the other 11 productivity blocks that have been holding you back for years and we work together to crush them one by one so you can end self-sabotage FOR GOOD and start living the life you’ve always wanted to live.

So if you’re SERIOUS about going through this process and leaving the self-sabotage behind to make way for the most successful version of yourself you’ve ever met…do yourself a favor and CLICK THE BANNER BELOW if you are ready for The Productivity Plan, and I’ll get you inside there INSTANTLY. Cheers to your best year ever my friend. You ARE enough. And you DO deserve it…whether the current version of your subconscious thinks you do or not 😉



The TRUTH? You made that post about how “This is YOUR year!” because you’re STILL more addicted to the dopamine spike that comes with telling people you’re GOING to do the work than the dopamine spike that comes with DOING THE WORK ITSELF.

You’re living in a land where it’s impossible to GROW anything, but you’ll continue to roll up your sleeves and play farmer, shouting from the rooftops that you’re THINKING about planting seeds this year WHEN THE TRUTH IS

You probably won’t do anything more than you did last year…


…you know how to ACTUALLY play farmer and tear up your problems from the ROOTS that are embedded so deep in the ground you can’t even imagine pulling them free at all.

Unfortunately, most entrepreneurs will enter 2020 DEVASTATED, making the same “New Year Resolutions” they set for 2019 and 2018 and 2017 etc. etc.

But why?

WHY is it so hard for entrepreneurs to change?

Why do 97%+ of businesses FAIL?

Why do the majority of business owners who are great people with great ideas STRUGGLE to even pay bills, letalone hit the income levels they see the GREATS in the industry hitting?

The truth is…

…they’re just caught in a period of their life right now where:


It’s the most dangerous place to be in ever.

And chances are…you LIVE THERE and if you’re honest with yourself…

…you’ve been living there for a VERY LONG TIME.


At least…not ENTIRELY.

The “Grind-Hustle-Hustle-Grind” entrepreneurs are the ones mostly responsible for plaguing our industry with making you think everything is a struggle and business & life are a war you have to wake up and gun up and fight against every day.

Ever heard of HARD work?

Do you PRIDE yourself on your HARD work?

PRIDE yourself on making everything HARD?

Because then you’re the hero of the story.

You’ve slayed your dragon!

You did it! You saved yourself!

Truth is…if I dig down DEEP enough…I used to LOVE being broke.

Used to LOVE struggling.

Used to LOVE the endless pain that came with an entrepreneurial journey where you don’t even know if you’re on the right path or not.

You know WHY I used to love the pain and why you CURRENTLY love the pain?

Because it’s the classic UNDERDOG STORY!

We make OURSELVES the underdog…

…by fucking up our situation and self-sabotaging…

…then we figure shit out AT THE LAST MINUTE and “Save The Day”…

…and then instead of just BUILDING FROM THERE…


…so we can LIVE THE UNDERDOG STORY once more.

Trippy, right?

I remember I used to be barely making any money and then at the end of the month bills Bills BILLS and ALL OF THE SUDDEN…

…I’d launch some little fly-by-night marketing campaign and make justtttttt enough money to cover everything so I could get by to the next month.

I was good.

And I was HAPPY that I could do this!

Let’s be honest…it’s good to know how to tap a few keys and make a Facebook post and pull in thousands of dollars that could bail me out of a bad situation.

I was STOKED that I now had this skill!

The “Save Myself” skill!

So…I kept putting myself in situations where I needed to SAVE MYSELF again and again so I could use my skill, sharpen my skill and make that skill a part of my life.

After all…that’s what we do with skills…

– We use them

– We sharpen them

– We make them a part of our everyday lives

But what if it’s a skill like THAT one?

A skill where I’m bailing myself out of trouble, and then just unconsciously putting myself BACK INTO TROUBLE AGAIN so I could live my “Underdog Story” on loop like every day is groundhog day?


What’s even MORE dangerous, is that most entrepreneurs don’t even have the “Save Themselves” skill.

Most entrepreneurs have the “Compile Information” skill.

They are good at buying every course out there.

They are good at knowing what EVERY guru in the industry is up to.

They are good at doing some pointless Google Hangout seventy times a week with their fellow entrepreneurs who are no better off than they are.

And they are good at attending the webinars and taking alllllllll the notes…

…but guess what?

They’re not good at EXECUTION.

Because they’re COMFORTABLE with their new skill of “Taking In Proper Knowledge”.

“Yea I used to be a piece of shit before, but now I’m into personal development! I know how to study from millionaires! I used to not be able to do this! I even say my affirmations!”

It gives them a high…a dopamine rush of sorts.


And it technically IS a skill…it’s being resourceful in a sense of the word…being able to find the right information and take notes on it and all that jazz.

But has THAT alone EVER gotten ANYBODY ANYWHERE?

The answer is a resounding NO!

They can’t take action because they’re TERRIFIED of what the “Next Level THEM” actually looks like once the action is consistently executed and the results are IN TO STAY.


Because they KNOW they’ve heard the successful say things like:

“It’s not all about LEARNING! It’s about EXECUTION!!!”


They used to NOT learn anything good or worthwhile that would benefit their lives…


They know how to buy the beneficial courses and attend the beneficial webinars and watch the beneficial YouTube videos.

They learned how to find sacred information they never knew existed before.


“That skill you have? Or finding the TOP INFORMATION in the world? Yea stop doing that and just go execute on a SLIVER of the information you already know and you’ll WIN!”

Hard to hear for most.

IMPOSSIBLE to execute for MANY.

Because their IDENTITY is there.

Their IDENTITY is wrapped around “The Entrepreneur Who’s Still Learning”

They have HOPE there.

“I’m going to make it someday”.

When the truth is…the version of themselves who EXECUTED wouldn’t NEED the identity of the underdog and wouldn’t NEED the hope because they’d just live in a constant state of success.

Sure that state would have bumps in the roads and hits you take, but in general the quality of business and life is just always going up up up if you’re on that road.

It’s the road most entrepreneurs will never walk.

Because they LOVE their identity of the “Entrepreneur Who’s COMING UP!”

The “THIS IS MY YEAR!” entrepreneur!

The “I’m missing the SECRET info so if I just buy this oneeeeee more thing I’ll have it! I’ll have uncovered the secret like a digital Indiana Jones!!!” entrepreneur.

You can spot them from a mile away.

Go on their Facebook profiles and look at the posts where they could have written something of value that they created THEMSELVES that would DIRECTLY translate into money…

…and instead see them recirculating cutesy personal development videos from famous successful people.

Tell them EXACTLY what to do and they’ll get high as fuck off the fact that they now have a MAP to follow…but they LOVE being the entrepreneur who’s starting from Point A and has to go alllllllll the way to the X on the map to “Get The Treasure”.

They love being ON the hunt instead of actually returning to camp with the meat in hand.

They could make it EASY…but being on the hunt is HARD…so they have to make it HARD.

Their identity as someone who’s successful would realize it’s EASIER to execute consistently and get results consistently…but they haven’t SURRENDERED to that identity yet.

They’re still playing in the identity of “Information Gatherer” “Hustler” “Grinder” “On My Way To The Top” “Underdog” and all the other identities that hold the vast majority of this industry back from ever achieving any REAL levels of success they desire.

To achieve the success they’re REALLY after…they’d have to kill off an entire identity they’re owning…and it’s one of the hardest things to let go of if you don’t know the way.

I’ve had to kill the “Starving Artist” part of myself I loved.

I had to kill the “Underdog Entrepreneur Who’s Abouttttttt To Make It” part of myself I loved.

I’ve had to kill the “Endless Information Gatherer” part of myself I loved.

And I’ve had to kill the “Grind-Hustle-Hustle-Grind” part of myself I loved.

All to make room for the version of myself who SURRENDERED to success and learned to ALLOW it to permeate my life by actually taking on the identity of the SUCCESSFUL version of myself who actually executed consistently on what I needed to execute on.

That was when everything changed for me.

But I had to KILL FOUR VERSIONS OF MYSELF to get there.

To make way for the fifth: the one who actually attains the desires I first see in my mind’s eye.

It wasn’t easy.

But the AWARENESS of these different versions of myself I was living gave me an insight into why I was making everything so hard when in reality…everything is so so easy.

SO much easier than we think.

Something that’s almost IMPOSSIBLE for the person who’s “Making Everything Hard” to even hear because…I remember when people would tell ME things were actually easy but it would fall on deaf ears.

I NEEDED things to be hard.

I NEEDED to be the entrepreneur who was “ABOUT TO MAKE IT” because that was all I KNEW!

I NEEDED to be the “STARVING ARTIST” because that was cool and edgy and set me apart from the crowd.

I NEEDED to be the “UNDERDOG WHO ALWAYS SAVES HIMSELF” because then I could prove my skills to myself AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN.

And I NEEDED to have a business that was “SICK” because whenever I was sick as a child…I got insane amounts of unconditional love in my direction from my parents.

You have no idea how deep the rabbit hole goes on the identities you’ve formed for yourself.

But it’s those very identities that are holding you back and sabotaging any chance of you reaching any REAL level of success you’re after.

You’re probably also clinging onto an identity where you don’t really even KNOW what you desire 100% yet because the version of you who KNOWS will be able to SEE THE MASSIVE GAP in between where you are…and where you desire to be.

So…the question running through your mind at a million miles an hour right now is:


And the reality is…it’s not an answer I can just type into a Facebook post here and you’re “Set For Life”.

It’s a constant process of RECOGNIZING what identities we’re forming around ourselves and then knowing the step-by-step process to break those identities down to make way for the new, empowering ones.

It’s about KNOWING how to STAY THE PATH and continue moving towards the NEW TRUE identities when the old ones do everything in their power and employ tricks you don’t even know you’re susceptible to in order to PULL YOU BACK.

And it’s about KNOWING how to not only step into the shoes of the version of yourself with that identity…but knowing how to LIVE THERE and not just drift back to how everything “Used to be” since that will initially be more comfortable for you.

Because this is a lot to cover, I put together SEVERAL modules in my course The Productivity Plan that cover this IN DEPTH so you always have something to refer back to time and time again whenever you need to catch yourself playing out one of these negative identities and quickly shift into the version of you LIVING in the POSITIVE ones.

If I hadn’t learned this material…I’d still be a mess.

I’d be a combination of a starving artist who just endlessly gathers information, tears my life down every month so I can build it right back up at the end and spins my wheels while hustle-grind-grind-hustling my face off to the point where I’m giving up EVERYTHING in my life to get the business results…while they slipped through my fingers like trying to hold water.

I’d be nowhere.

And now that I’m on my path…where I desire to be and just GROWING and SCALING everything from here vs. trying to REBUILD everything…I looked out at the marketplace and saw just how many entrepreneurs were OWNED by their negative FALSE identities, SLAVES to these identities, and I knew I had to help others break free like my mentors have helped ME break free.

That’s why I put the course together.

That’s why I don’t just say “Oh to be productive you just color code your post-it notes and clean your desk!”

We dig to the ROOTS.

We pull them UP.

And we create the SPACE for you to actually enter into that successful version of yourself that you’ve been DYING to step into for more years than you even consciously know.

So my question to you my friend:

Will you live this year and many years in the future through the lens of an identity that doesn’t serve you, and actually pulls you BACKWARDS?

Or will you take a deep sigh, know you’re worth it, push your shoulders back a little and COMMIT to becoming AWARE of these false identities and burning their houses to the fucking GROUND so that you can live the phoenix story and emerge from the flames as the TRUEST MOST POWERFUL version of yourself that actually makes your goals HAPPEN?

I know which side of the fence I’ll be on.

And I know which side of the fence my members from The Productivity Plan will be on.

The doors are open my friend…and I’m so excited to see who you become when you peel away the BS and step into the REAL YOU who’s not just READY for success…but lives success every day like it’s the norm at levels that would blow the previous version of yourself away.

Not “New Year New You”.

New Year REAL You.

Let’s get to work.



You hear it all the time…

“The past doesn’t exist”

“Don’t even think about it”

“Only focus on the now…”

“…and the future! Yes, the future!”


If that’s WORKING for you then by all means keep chugging along…

But if not, well…

Maybe it’s time to change something.

Something simple…

Something that doesn’t require back-breaking work or a 500 day seminar to make the actual change happen.

Perhaps something like…

A little daily gratitude?

I know you’ve heard of THAT one before too.

But in this case…let’s be SPECIFIC.

Gratitude about what you’ve created.

What you’ve ALREADY created.

Not what you’re creating NOW…

Not what you’ll create in the FUTURE…

But what you’ve created in the PAST!

See…here’s the deal…

There will ALWAYS be more to create.

And because of that sometimes we can get a little (or a LOT) overwhelmed, right?


Running a race would be easier if you had references in your brain that you’d won that race before.

Do you agree with me there?

If you’ve won 100 races, race 101 is just going to be another race that you win…naturally.



You have GREAT THINGS that you’ve done in your life EVEN IF you’re about to try to argue with me on that one.

There are creations that YOU brought about…

People you’ve HELPED…

Projects you’ve FINISHED…

Which means you have a TRACK RECORD of projects you’ve finished…that is if you take the time to be conscious of what they were.

So…if the CURRENT project you’re working on is going to help you level up…

…hit those new financial goals…

…get that time-freedom you’ve been seeking…

…build that business you’ve always wanted…

…but it seems like you have an OVERWHELMING amount of work to do to get from A to B…

…THIS is where we remember the times in the past where we HAVE gone from A to B.

And my friend…

…if you go deep on these…

…you have a LOT of them.

A LOT more than you would think.

I can’t tell you what yours are…

…but what I CAN tell you…is that if you regularly think about your WINS, it gets easier to WIN.

LIVE in that state of winning…


…of COMPLETING what you started creating…

…and of unleashing that energy to the world.

And along the way…don’t forget your wins.

Because they’ll act as fuel for MORE wins.



Look…I get it. You have “problems”. We all do. But it’s when we give those “problems” POWER and see them as bigger than OURSELVES that they actually start negatively manifesting some not-so-cool shit in our lives.

The better way to deal with “problems”? Smoke em. Get rid of them fucking AS SOON AS POSSIBLE and then change your BELIEFS and your HABITUAL ROUTINES so that the “problem” never surfaces again.

I’ll tell you how to in a second.

But before that I’ll tell you what it’s costing you:

Ready for it?


The money you want to earn.

The trips you want to go on.

The bank balances you want to look at.

The relationships you want in your life.

The material possessions…

…and the intangible abundant energetic state that you can LIVE IN and CREATE FROM and LOVE FULLY FROM.

You don’t get ANY of that if you don’t figure out how to deal with your “problems”.

So…here’s how we deal with them!


The word “problem” has a RIDICULOUS amount of negative energy attached to it that rolls millennia deep.

Bad juju.

Call them projects instead.

Many great projects have been accomplished.

Whatever you have to do is the next one.


Get to the BELIEFS you have that are causing those “problems” to appear in your life, maybe appear all the fucking time even though you’ve tried to get them to go away in the past.

Eating shitty food every day doesn’t mean you have the wrong diet program.

It means you have the wrong BELIEF STRUCTURE.

Don’t believe that you CAN be fit, DESERVE to be lean, are WORTHY of creating massive MASSIVE WEALTH?

You’ve gotta fix that part right there first before you get into mechanics.


Every project has an end goal and a series of action steps you can take to make that end goal happen.

Take emotions off the table for a second…

…and zoom out to see what all those actions steps ARE, the POSITIVE side that they lead TO and then how you can start taking those action steps right NOW to move the project forward…

…and design a life greater than you ever thought possible 😉



I still remember waking up with a frown on my face, almost disappointed that there was another day that I had to “get through”.

I didn’t know where I was going.

And I felt like even if I knew, there was no way I was ever going to get there.

Ever felt that before?

It’s brutal, totally drains you.

These were during the days before I went FULL TIME in the world of entrepreneurship, those days where I had the shitty job I was trying to get away from but the business was barely even PART time, let alone stable enough to support me.

I was always an entrepreneur though, don’t get me wrong, selling things since I was a little kid.

But I wasn’t always SUCCESSFUL as one, in more ways than financially.

I wasn’t always fulfilled.

I wasn’t always this motivated.

And I certainly wasn’t always experiencing this much upside.

Even now feeling like I’m on “the other side” of things, it’s still a challenge.

The more a business grows and the more YOU grow, the more problems you’ll have.

But they’re better QUALITY problems.

That’s the important part to pay attention to that so many ignore.

You see, here are some problems I had BEFORE I was able to support myself full time in the world of entrepreneurship, particularly through the world of running online businesses:

– Had to get up earlier than I wanted because of my job

– Had to waste time and gas money driving to and from a job

– Had a job I didn’t enjoy that I didn’t have any passion for

– Had a VERY low job paycheck only come once every two weeks

– Had to be told when I could or couldn’t take breaks at work

– Had to get treated like crap by employees that I couldn’t fire

– Had to waste hours of my life doing something I didn’t love

My problems were all centered about not being FREE!
This is very important to notice.

Look at the problems in your life and find that central theme.

If the central theme revolves around feeling restricted or not feeling free, having a successful business WILL help alleviate those problems over time.

Now here’s the key.


Most people want to “never have problems again” and “just fix everything”.

This is literally impossible.

So don’t even think about it!

The goal should be to UPGRADE your problems.

And if there is one group of people who are always experiencing better and better problems in their lives, it’s the entrepreneur.

Here are a few of the “problems” our team has experienced lately:

– Accounts closing for making too much money too fast

– Overwhelmed by which potential 8 figure project to kick off first

– Too excited about all the different ways to make more money

– Too many messages in our inboxes to even respond to daily

– Scaling projects up to figure out how to turn $1 into $10

Notice how I didn’t say “Entrepreneurship started working and now all of the sudden I don’t have any problems!”?


There will ALWAYS be “problems” but you just want better quality problems.

For example, can we agree that it’s better quality problem if you’re making SO MUCH money that now you have to find out a way to get clever with taxes?

Vs. having the problem of never making enough money so you’re always worried about bills and how you’re going to make rent?

So…by now you’re probably wondering how it is that you can get away from all the little BS problems in your life and actually have some problems that MATTER…some fun problems…some “you know you’re playing big WHEN” problems.

How do we upgrade our problems?

It’s simple.

We start by upgrading ourselves by upgrading the people we learn from.

It’s all about modeling.

Find someone who has higher quality problems than you on a consistent basis and then work closely with them in business and soon you’ll have those problems too.

Imagine if I was trying to learn business from someone who’s regular problems are “the boss was mean this week” and “John from accounting is a real piece of shit!”

You’ll never get wealthy talking about “water cooler problems”.

Those are the small ones that people talk about before they realize the true game that’s being played and their true power.

Once you’re around these people, getting mentored by them, implementing the advice they give you and WORKING WITH THEM then it’s only a matter of time before all your little BS problems seemingly fade away only to make room for big, new, exciting problems.

And those are the ones you want.

Because when you figure out how to solve THOSE…you get to design an unbelievable lifestyle for yourself that many people only dream of.

And on your way there you’ll be increasing the quality of your life so fast that you don’t even recognize what you were stressing about just a few short months ago.



It surrounds us on a daily basis…

And there’s always more of it to come, seemingly stacking the desk against us…if we don’t know how to handle it that is.

I used to not be able to respond to stress well AT ALL.

The slightest little thing would freak me out and sometimes send me into full-blown depressions that lasted for WEEKS.

Thankfully, after “eating glass” throughout this entrepreneurial journey and constantly reinvesting into my personal development, I’ve been able to identify 10 ways that you can cut the stress in your life and keep your bliss throughout all of life’s chaos.

Don’t overthink about having to do all 10 or “which one is the best”.

Just open up some space to identify which one is powerful for YOU at the right moment when you might need to use it.


I cannot emphasize enough the power of breath, of paying attention to it, and of using it to GROUND yourself back into presence (which we’ll discuss in just a second).

Next time you’re freaking out or getting stressed, pay attention to how you’re breathing.

You’ll most likely find that all of the sudden you’re taking shorter breaths and breathing a lot faster.

When you notice this, simply close your eyes for a second (unless you’re driving of course!) and take a few deep breaths.

And remember, it’s not just about getting through a few deep breaths as quickly as possible.

Really sit there with your breathing and notice your body going from tense back to relaxed, your breathing going from shallow back to full deep breaths.

A few great tips can be adding a little note in your work area that simply says “BREATHE”, setting an alarm on your phone that goes off at a random time reminding you to breathe and even setting a wallpaper for your phone or computer that say “BREATHE”.

Trust me, these little tricks can bring a smile to your face and keep you calm even when everything is going crazy.


One of the BIGGEST reasons why everything begins to build up and seem chaotic in our lives is simply because we step out of presence.

We mentally project ourselves into the future and worry about things that haven’t even happened yet like fictional stories of not being able to pay bills.

Or on the flip side we project ourselves mentally back into the past and worry about things we “messed up” before that are literally not even real anymore.

You can’t go bring me the past or bring me the future. But what you CAN do is step into the NOW, and breathing as mentioned earlier is a great way to do that.

I like to step briefly into the past to recall lessons I’ve learned from “mistakes” or put a big grin across my face remembering awesome memories with friends.

But that’s all I use it for.

With the future I’ll project myself into it to see where I’m taking my business, the direction of my life and new cool & exciting things I want to do or places I want to go.

But again, that’s all I use it for.

When you use the past as a tool to feel guilty about “mistakes” and the future as a tool to worry about things that haven’t even happened yet, you’re ripping yourself away from presence, which is the place that real bliss comes from.


Can we be honest for a second?

Usually the stuff we’re stressing out about it microscopic but we’re making it into some gigantic thing that is seemingly impossible to conquer.

You know what a small stress is?

Stressing about a bill, stressing about “what you’re going to do next”, even stressing about something you did in the past that you can NEVER undo but are somehow trying to IMPOSSIBLY.

My advice?


What’s the BIG picture?

Are you stressed about a bill?

You have to collect money.

Collecting money is fun!

It can lead to wealth and massive impact beyond just you and your family and really create something that can have a lasting impact on millions of people all around the world!

See what I did there?

You can reframe EVERYTHING!!!

Haven’t been laid in forever because you don’t know how to get laid?

Well, if you’re focusing on “not getting laid” then your life is going to SUCK!

But what if instead you realized “Huh…all I have to do is LEARN how to get laid, and then whoa, I’m going to get laid!

It’s going to happen sooner than later!

“I’m going to get laid!”

Maybe that’s a funny example that just came off the top of my head (hope you’re not suffering from that one) but do you SEE how easy it is to reframe everything for the positive results you’re going to get in the future by simply zooming out?


If you don’t know what you want, everything in life is going to be so much harder than it needs to be. We’ve all heard the classic example of a guy that gets in his car and turns on his GPS and says “Take me somewhere I want to go that is awesome!!!”

Well obviously, the GPS is going to need a little bit more to go on than just THAT.

You need to be specific and have LOTS of things you want so that you and the universe have lots of options for projects to co-create together.

I could dive into a whole rabbit hole on this one, but short story is that people who know what they want usually get it and people who don’t know what they want end up working for someone who knows what they want and endlessly drift through life dissatisfied.

I’m currently reading a book “Happy Pocket Full Of Money” that is having me go through an exercise of writing down FIVE THOUSAND GOALS!!!

That’s a lot right?

It’s definitely going to stretch me and pull me out of my comfort zone to make such a list.

But just STARTING the list everything is getting much clearer for me in life and business because I’m solidifying the direction I’m heading in.

Without knowing where you want to go, even the smallest of problems will consume you and leave you stagnant like you’re getting sucked down into quicksand.

Even something as small as a $100 bill you need to pay. But knowing where you want to go, it’s like what an old mentor Mark Hoverson said to me a long time ago “Make your vision, your direction so gigantic that any problems coming your way are like flies hitting the windshield of your car that’s moving a million miles an hour, where you wouldn’t even notice them.”


Tony Robbins once said that progress IS happiness.

It took me a while to fully understand this but as I’ve evolved in life and business more and more I’ve come to understand exactly what he was saying.

If you’re not moving, you’re not going to be happy, period.

But if you’re making progress and you can MEASURE the progress you’re making, you’re going to feel MUCH better.

Progress creates momentum and momentum accelerates you down that path towards what it is that you want.

If you’re a writer and you haven’t written even one page of the book you want to publish, do you think you’re going to be as happy as the other writer who is already 25 pages deep?

Of course not.

Progress, no matter how slow, helps put you in that flow state where you know you’re making moves in your life and when you’re in that state, you’ll keep your bliss.

On the flip side, if you’re NOT moving and NOT taking action and NOT progressing in your life, then what’s going to happen?

The mind monkeys are going to come in!

See, if you’re always in motion and making progress towards what you want to do, you’re overwhelming the “thinking mind” with actions that are beneficial to your life, your business, etc.

But as soon as you stand still, that little voice creeps in to tell you that you can’t do it.

And it’ll only get louder and louder the more you stand still without making progress.

When you’re taking action, this voice barely even exists because you’re using what mental power you have to channel it towards the manifestation of something you desire.

But don’t let it think for itself.

Don’t EVER let it think for itself.

Because if you PAUSE and let it do the talking, it’s going to tell you that you can’t do it, that you’re not good enough, to stay in your comfort zone, to not even try hitting your goals, and on and on until you get stuck with a mediocre life you hate waking up for each day.

Silence this voice with action and bliss is inevitable.


This is a biggie that took me years and years to master, even though I knew from the very start that successful people who had what I wanted ALL had morning routines.

And solid ones at that.

You should have a PLAN for how you’re going to enter your day, because if you don’t then that monkey mind is going to kick on right as you wake up and be so negative and so loud that you’re going to just want to stay curled up in bed and not even face the day.

But if you know what you’re going to dive into first thing, then it becomes something you can look forward to and something that gets you CENTERED as you start the day.

I use a great app called Coach.me where I plug in activities I want to do more often than not throughout the week and then as I do them I just check them off and it lets me know my PROGRESS (progress…hmm that sounds familiar!)

So for example, today I woke up and hit my kegels (don’t laugh, you should do them too!), meditated, read for 30 minutes, drank some black coffee (I do intermittent fasting so I don’t start eating until 2pm) and then now I’m writing some blog posts offline since the internet is out here at the villa in Bali for a bit.

It’s my rest day so I’m not exercising but that’s something else I’d hit in the morning if it was my “ON” day, and then I dive into business stuff LATER ON so that I’m fully centered by the time I dive headfirst into the wild world of entrepreneurship.

Research the morning routines of the most successful people out there and you’ll begin to find patterns of what they’re doing that you can model to craft your OWN routine.

There are many reasons they do them, but one reason is because it centers you for the day, and when you’re centered you keep your BLISS.


I ignored meditation for a long time as well, but once I really got into it, everything started to change for me, including the way I see the world around me. In addition to being more centered, I’d say I walk through life with the “calm, cool, collective” feel towards everything I experience, which was always a state I wanted to get to but had problems stepping into (before doing consistent meditation that is).

I don’t even do anything all that crazy.

In the morning for 15 minutes I just sit lotus position in my bed, close my eyes, and focus on my breathing.

When my timer goes off I’ll do a few deep breaths, open my eyes, and know that I’ve taken myself back to that centered and blissful place I can experience a new day from.

Meditation is great to do anytime, but I especially like doing it in the morning as it kind of “sets the tone” for the day to come.

Another thing meditation does is quiet that monkey mind!

And the more you meditate, the less your negative thoughts will come in throughout the day!

You see, there is SO MUCH negative input coming in our direction all the time from society, the mainstream media, even friends and family, you name it!

So you have to actively COUNTER all that crap by injecting positivity into your mind so you can keep your bliss and not end up in reaction mode freaking out about this and that and the other.

Darren Hardy of Success Magazine showed a great example of this at an event when he took a cup of muddy water and started pouring cups of clean water into it.

It took a little while, but eventually the muddy water was all gone and only clean water remained!

That’s what it’s like when you meditate!

Introduce those moments of stillness where you are not thinking about ANYTHING, just paying attention to your breathing, and you’ll get rid of the “mud” (negative thoughts) at a much faster rate than going through life NOT meditating.


If you are in business and you don’t exercise, I don’t know how you get through the day.

Even for people who aren’t in business, this is incredibly important.

We have to remember that we are PRIMAL BEINGS and our “primal brain” is still the one in control of us.

In the grand scheme of things, it was not THAT long ago that we would wake up and run around ALL DAY to hunt, gather food, build shelters with out hands, etc.

We’ve lost that with all the abundance we’ve opened up to as a society.

Instead of hunting and gathering food we can just make a transaction online and have food brought to us.

Instead of gathering wood and building shelters we just pick a place we like and make another transaction.

In our conscious mind we think we’re ready for this, but at a deeper level there’s a part of us going CRAZY because we’re not expending all that energy every day that we used to.

Sitting all day in front of the computer or TV while snacking on chips is hardly anywhere near what our ancestors did on a daily basis when it comes to MOVING AROUND.

There are a million reasons to exercise and you don’t need me to tell you why it’s good for you.

But I will say this: if you are NOT exercising and moving around a decent amount throughout the day, you’re going to have a bunch of pent up energy that will come out in the form of stress.

Chemicals that need to get released through a workout session (the “hunt”) won’t get released and your body will hold them and turn them toxic.

This breaks down your body, freaks you out mentally, and that’s why a lot of people are not healthy and going through life in a mental fog, when all they had to do was exercise a few times a week to settle down that part of the mind and body that need it so desperately.

Exercise is the best anti-depressant out there and will even help your bottom line improve in more ways than one.

By keeping your body fueled, you keep your mind fueled, and that leads to incredible momentum in business that will take you where you want to go faster than you ever thought possible.


I love this point and it was certainly one I missed the mark on for a while when I got into business over a decade ago.

I was in it for ME ME ME and not thinking of anyone else and because of that, not only did my results suffer but I SUFFERED too.

We get what we want by helping others get what they want.

If you want to experience something, help others experience it. Life is really as simple as that.

(Read “Happy Pocket Full Of Money” if you want to understand this further).

When we are just out for ourselves, we are seeing the world through a “lack” mentality vs. an “abundance” mentality.

When you are focused on helping others have amazing lives or creating amazing businesses or helping them in any way you can, you step into the abundance mentality full on, and the universe unlocks a lot of awesomeness for you.

But if you are just “out for yourself” and always coming at everything from that “what’s in it for ME?” mentality then the universe will not show you as much abundance in your life because you’re choosing to be closed off and see the world through a lens of lack.

Contributing doesn’t mean you have to go build schools in Africa or volunteer 5 days a week at a soup kitchen or anything like that (although if you feel called to do that, GO FOR IT!)

It simply means that as you’re looking to get something in life you’re going after, you’re helping bring others along with you on the journey.

You’re sharing what you’ve learned, or you’re sharing resources of yours that you can share or offering advice where you know you can contribute.

It’s one thing for you to hit a target.

But it’s another to bring a whole bunch of people along with you for the ride.

And it’s more fun that way too!

One thing you can do to contribute is Join Our Kiva Team over on the “Giving Back” page on this blog and pop over a $25 loan to an entrepreneur in a third-world country who would be THRILLED to be able to put that money towards their business they want to expand.

I love contributing this way and Kiva makes it very easy. Remember, life is about GIVING not about GETTING, but the funny thing is that the more that you give, the more you’ll get what you want (and keep your bliss in the process).


Straight up, you will not be happy if you surround yourself with unhappy people.

You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

So if you hang around with 5 people who are always stressed out and complaining about everything, you’re eventually going to be the sixth.

If you have to cut people from your life, cut people from your life.

It’s not as big of a deal as you think it is because you’ll open up that space and soon positive people will appear to fill it.

I love surrounding myself with people who think big, want to do big things, want to contribute, and are always helping me take things to the next level.

If someone doesn’t fit into ALL of those categories, they have no business being in my life because they’re going to bring me down, and since I only live once I don’t have time to live a life without the bliss!

Spend time listening to audios and watching videos and reading books created by successful people you want to model.

Download their brains into your brain.

Make sure the people you surround yourself with in person are doing the same and that they barely complain about anything if at all.

If someone is a complainer, I’m going to cast them out of my life faster than you can blink.

And once you understand how having just ONE person in your environment who complains a lot affects you, you’ll begin to do the same.

RAISE YOUR STANDARDS as Tony Robbins would say and choose to put only the BEST people in your social circle so that you can live a truly abundant life surrounded by abundant people who are absolute pros at keeping the bliss!

A lot of times when people write big list posts like this they’ll say “You don’t have to do ALL of these things…” Well, I’m here to tell you that you DO have to do all of these things.

But don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be overnight.

And if it seems like a lot, just remember that if you’re consistent about introducing them to your life one by one or even a few at a time that after a while they will all be second nature and you won’t even have to think about them.

There are many more thing I could have put on this list but these are my top 10 (in no particular order) and if you get these down, I guarantee you’ll be able to keep the bliss regardless of whatever chaos life throws your way!